How to boost your child's self esteem

Boosting Self Esteem

Did you know that displaying images of your children at home can increase their self esteem and well-being?

“When a child sees a family portrait with them included in the photograph they say to themselves: ‘These people have me as part of what they are, that’s why I belong here. This is where I come from.”
Judy Weiser, Psychologist.


family on the beach

family walking the forest

Show how much you love them

In this digital age, with social media taking up a large part of our children's lives there's a tendency forget the importance of printing family photos. I have a teenage daughter and I can tell you that a 5 minute scroll through her Instagram feed does worry me. As a photographer, I want to use images in a positive way - to promote happiness and security, not insecurity.

When I take photos of her with her family and friends and put them on the walls, in a photo book or in our annual family calendar, images take on a magical quality. They become a prompt to all of us to remember the fantastic times we've had a family. The images of her walking with her brother, hugging him or laughing with him make us all feel wonderful. Family selfies whilst out on a walk let us remember the day we had (and how we all have to bend down so my son's head is not cut off). The family images give my kids a sense of belonging, a secure feeling of knowing that they are loved.

sibling photo shoot

sibling photo shoot

A family bond

We had our own family photo shoot a couple of years ago (and I have another one planned soon too!) and we have the images all over the house. We have a multi-aperture frame in hall, which I look at every day. I have pictures in my office and the kids have them in their bedrooms too, along with other pictures that make them feel good about themselves. My daughter has images from a surf photo shoot with her friends on her wall and my son has some from his gymnastics competitions and ballet classes.

ballet class

friends photo shoot

Building self esteem

As a photographer, exploring the psychology of displaying images is really interesting. I've been reading about it online and I've come across some interesting research.

Psychologist Dr David Krauss says, “My bias is very simple. I think family photographs should be on the wall. I am very conservative about self-esteem and I think placing a family photo someplace in the home where the child can see it every day without having to turn on a device or click around on a computer to find it really hits home for that child this sense of reassurance and comfort. They have a certainty about them and a protecting quality that nurtures a child. It let’s them know where they are in the pecking order and that they are loved and cared for.”


autumn family photo shoot

family photo shoot on beach

Get in the frame

I've been a family photographer for 13 years now and it's very common for parents to ask about a photo shoot for their kids but not be so keen to get in the images themselves. Anyone that has ever had a shoot with me will know that I actively encourage parents to get in the frame. There's always a million excuses - not having the right hair, clothes, make-up, wanting to lose a few pounds, but I try to explain that nothing is more important that existing in images with your children.

Dr Krauss also says, ”I think it's really important to show a family as a family unit. It is so helpful for children to see themselves as a valued and important part of that family unit. A photographer’s job is to make and create the image to look like a safe holding space for kids where they are safe and protected. Kids get it on a really simple level.”

The pure emotional connection with your kids becomes the only thing that you'll feel when looking back at the photos. Not your flyaway hair or double chin.

family photo shoottwin brothers

They will cherish the images when they are older

My kids are only 10 and 13, so not really old enough to look back on their childhood with nostalgia just yet, but they LOVE looking through old photo albums. A while back we had some friends over, friends that we met when we moved to Wales, through our local NCT group. I've been photographing my kids and their kids for the last 13 years and it was so lovely to look through all the memories together. Trips to the beach, potty training, BBQ's, days out, sleepovers - they are all documented and looking at the images increases our sense of belonging and well-being.

“Displaying photos prominently in the home sends the message that our family and those in it are important to one another, and we honor the memories we have experienced,“ says Cathy Lander-Goldberg a licensed clinical social worker and a professional photographer and director of Photo Explorations.

display of framed images

Print your photos

We all have images on our phones, in fact, my son always asks to look at my phone so he can scroll through images of past holidays, but having the images printed and displayed has a much bigger impact.

Dr. Krauss believes that images should be displayed around the home. "What it says to a child is, 'I'm important in this family,'"

I understand that in this day and age people like having digital copies of images. That is why I include digital images in all of my packages. But, I also encourage families to print and frame images from their family photo sessions. It could be a large photo wall, or a multi-aperture frame or a few smaller prints displayed around the house on window sills. The important thing is that you and your children see them every day. It will promote a feeling of togetherness and a family bond full of memories.

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Get snapping and printing!

So, go off and increase the feel good factor in your families. Make your kids feel secure and loved. Display the images of your family that you have, instead of leaving them on your phone.

If you want to update your family photos - you can always book a family photo session with me!

Find out more about family shoots and have a look at my family portfolio.

Gem x

Products explained...

I'm not one for using jargon, honestly, but occasionally the word triptych will slip out and clients will look at me like I've started speaking another language. So, with that in mind and following on from my blog post encouraging you all to start printing, I thought I'd write a handy guide to my own products and explain what they all are.

I don't have a massive selection of products as I don't want to overwhelm clients at their viewing session. Often with over 50 images to view and lots of choices we have our work cut out choosing packages and narrowing down favourite images. Most clients spend at least 2 hours choosing their favourite images and then we get onto the job of creating a collage together, or deciding which image in which size for grandparents and other family members. I love viewing sessions! Not just because it's lovely to see the reaction of clients to their images (feel free to cry!) but because I know at the end of the viewing session they will be going home with a selection of printed goodies that will last them a lifetime - printed images that will give them so much joy each time they look at them. And that's what it's all about!

So, lets get down to business. What products am I offering? Well, it's quite simple really! Printed images, canvas wraps and a gorgeous deep set framed product that can come with a single image, or three images (yep, a triptych).

The smaller print sizes I offer are 5x7 and 10x8 as they are the most common frame sizes that you can buy easily. Nip down to M&S and boom, you've got a selection of frames straight away. I don't want to make life difficult for you offering strange sizes, I want you to get the prints framed and up on the mantelpiece so you can see them! Other sizes are A4 and A3 - you can buy off the shelf frames in these sizes too or take them to frame shop, add a lovely mount, choose a frame you love and Bob's your uncle.

My most popular printed product is my 9 image collage. It's a great way to display all your favourite images from the session. It comes in 2 sizes, 30x30 or 24x24 but because I create them myself, you can really have any size that you like! The print comes rolled up in a tube, so you will need to go and get this one framed.

My canvas wraps come in three sizes, 20x16, 20x30 and 30x40. You can combine them to create a wall collage, for example, 3 20x16 canvas wraps in a row (yes, the t word again!). The canvas wraps are beautifully finished and come ready to hang straight away, so there won't be any need for faffing about adding fixings to the back of them. It's all done for you.

Finally, I have a gorgeous framed product. It's exclusively made by my lab, so you won't find it anywhere on the high street or online. In fact, you'll probably be the only person you know with one (unless you know lots of my clients...). You can have a single image or three images in a row. They are mounted on a board and placed in a deep set double mount. The frames are clean and stylish and the whole thing just looks incredibly gorgeous. You have to see it in person to really appreciate it but I've taken some photos to give you and idea.

So that's it! It's not scary and now when you're out and about having a coffee with friends, you can say, "I'm just nipping to M&S to buy three frames so I can have a triptych on my wall..." :)

 A lovely selection of printed images.A 20x30 canvas wrap.A 20x16 canvas wrap.A 30x40 image.An A4 print, a 10x8 print and a 5x7 print. A 30x30 9 image collage. A framed triptych.Combining canvas wraps to create a wall collage.